Anthony took a nap on the couch recently, using my lap as a pillow. In the middle of it, without waking up all the way, he said, "Stop holding me!" So, I moved my arm. He then said, "I want a big hug." I gave him one and he said, "Stop holding me." So, I let go. He sat up, but didn't open his eyes and said, "I need a big hug." I told him I didn't know the difference between a big hug and holding. He re-stated his need for a big hug, so I gave him one. He said, "That's holding." So, I let go. (Eventually, he lay back down and fell asleep again.)